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When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse

Lundy Bancroft on how abusers affect their children, and how mothers can help their children heal from witnessing abuse.

Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children's sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?

Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.

This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:

• Protect children and help them heal emotionally

• Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse

• Increase their chances of winning custody

• Help their kids feel good about themselves


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